Have you read every self-help book on the market, listened to Dr. Phil, Oprah, and every expert on “living” you could ever think of, read every study about how bad you are and how you are doomed and how you must buy this or that product to remedy what you are, and then purchased these products—all after which you still felt empty and ugly and wrong?

Yeah, you and every other American. It seems that if we’re taught anything in this country, it’s that A. we suck as we are and B. there are plenty of things we can spend money on to change that. Well, if you’re tired of hearing this information—because, as you must know in your heart of hearts, it is wrong, not you—here is a list of 23 things about yourself that you really do need to hear.

It, too, was written by “experts,” from Leonie Allen to Tara Gentille to many other self-help gurus. But you’re not going to hear about what you need to fix, buy, or change.

Did you know that you are gifted? That people want to help you? I bet you didn’t know that you don’t need permission from anyone else to do what you love—or that you can truly say no when you want to. Do yourself a favor and click the link above to download this list. Odds are that you won’t need another self-help book any time soon.