Rosebud Magazine has the possibly dubious distinction of being a magazine for and by mostly pot-growers (hydroponic growers to be exact). I happened upon it by chance (and no, I am not a grower) and liked much of the content. Typical articles include “Micro Gardens” and “The Man Cave” so I was definitely surprised to see an article written by a man about women’s preferences in the bedroom that actually made sense. (Contrast that to almost any askmen.com article and you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.)

The article which you can read a fraction of here is entitled, “So You Think You’re Good in Bed” and the author’s basic premise is that before a man considers himself the next Don Juan, he might actually want to consider what a woman prefers, which is relatively novel in this day and age.

Russell Roberts, who wrote the article, maintains that women inform themselves about sex on the Internet and then judge their mates or prospective mates based on what they’ve read.  Secondly, he correctly assumes that women talk to other women about sex. This “Sex & the City” style talk can quickly ruin the reputation of a lover who is bad in the sack by the simple fact of comparison.

He then compares this to a man’s post-coitus de-briefing, which usually consists of more bragging than actual instruction as it is rarely that you will hear the specifics of where a man’s girlfriend likes to be touched. Instead, you will hear phrases like feisty “pile-driving action” and yes, “pile-driving action” is a direct quote. Fortunately, he advises men to avoid this particular action as women typically do not like to be “drilled like a jackhammer”.

In addition to the above snippets, Mr. Roberts gives some unusual advice, which is definitely news to me. Specifically, he mentions that the prime amount of time women prefer to have actual intercourse with a man is 13 minutes and not a second longer.  While I am not particularly convinced by this piece of advice, most of his advice to men in the sex department is greatly appreciated.

Finally, in order to fill out the article, either Mr. Roberts or some thoughtful editor included some useful bullet points: dirty talk, kissing, foreplay, and satisfaction. Although these are all pretty self-explanatory, he includes little descriptions of each.