I’ve been single for a nearly a year; while I did figure out how to date an actual man once in a while--as opposed to a flesh-eating zombie aka programmer--I don’t know that I’ve found the one. Maybe I’m just not up-to-date on my dating or maybe I just spotted one and wanted to move too quickly.

I’m not sure. But for whatever reason, I’m still single. I haven’t become a crazy cat lady yet, but it could happen.

I’ve joined a total of three dating sites and no, I will not tell you which ones. The last thing I need is some online stalker trying to hunt me down because of my penchant for using zombie memes.

But back to me and my dating life, which has been on hold for the last few months, but hopefully will get jump-started into high gear now that spring is on the horizon. (It also shouldn’t hurt that I’ve sent several dating games to my love matches. It’s easier in theory for a guy, especially after a beer or two, to respond to dating games than it is to answer an e-mail from a long-winded writer no matter how cute she may be.

So, I’m picturing dating as a numbers game. The more guys I contact, the more likely I am to find one who is a fit for me. (That I am hopefully a fit for.) If I contact 50 guys, maybe I’ll be a match for 3 of them. Which would be great if I were into polyamorous relationships, but I’m not. (I’ve found the polyamorous crowd to be a little weird.)

So what I am looking for in a guy?

I want a guy who is preferably breathing and living; I went on a date with someone with terminal cancer and knew I couldn’t take it emotionally. Beyond that, I want a guy who is supportive of women, who likes to be outside, who likes to drink a beer now and then and who most of all, appreciates me for who I am. (Of course, the last part might be a little tough:)

Any advice on how I can lure a guy in with my feminine wiles? Has anyone been successful at meeting guys at organized events for singles?

(I tried one event and was the only person there in my age bracket--definitely AWKWARD.)