Stumble Upon recognized that I might need some help with my dating and recommended THIS, a list of ten New Year’s dating resolutions. While I’m not sure who informed Stumble Upon of my dating dilemmas (Dad? Mom?), I’m grateful for a list of rules to guide me through my next year dating.

Her first resolution is very important. Talk more, text less. I myself have been a text-a-holic of late. And there are reasons for it. Work, prior engagements, my date’s kid, and one long and awkward phone call. But all of the texting feels strange sometimes. I don’t know how to interpret texts about the results of a college bowl game and the merits of the BCS; are they meaningful or just a way to pass the time?



That said, many of the texts have cheered me up on many a day.



Her second resolution is also great. Be a little less passive. Because I’m a writer by trade, I’m the veritable Queen of Texting, but am shy about SORTs (Status of Relationship Talks). I resolve to look out for my own interests in relationships and to try to find a working solution that suits my needs as well as my potential partner’s. Of course, since I was married for so long, I have yet to define exactly what this means. Mostly, I think being less passive means looking for the best guys and ones who will treat me well and following through on opportunities to see them.  



Some of her resolutions are less applicable to me. I’m not jealous of other couples, so don’t begrudge them their happiness. I was married for a long time, so know that what looks like happy on the outside is not always happy on the inside. Also, I’m not going to resolve to wear red more often. It looks ok on me, but it’s just not my color.



I’m also of the opinion that dating is (mostly!!) fun. While I’ve had a few dates with guys who I knew right away weren’t my type, for the most part, I’m fairly social and have enjoyed meeting new people. My biggest problem has been going on dates with  guys from dating sites who I liked but had absolutely ZERO sexual attraction to.  My honest addition to the resolutions is to only date guys that I THINK I might want to have sex with. Ultimately, the question that you have to ask myself is: “Is he worth that bikini wax?”



How about you? What are your dating resolutions for the New Year?