Bad Sext Timing.

I was truthfully enjoying sexting someone; every so often, we would sext about seeing each other and what we would do when we saw each other and it was fine. Then I had a bad day and received a sext.

I started wondering what I was doing in a sext relationship. What was the possible benefit for me? I realized that I needed someone with more to give me than a clever turn of phrase (or not so clever depending on the hour of the night) and sexy vibes; I decided that I needed someone to date, too.

The sexter made a joke about a comment I had made; he wanted to know whether or not it was a sexual innuendo. It totally wasn’t a sexual innuendo; I was in need of a friendly face (or texter) to console me.

But it wasn’t the guy’s fault that all he sent were sexts; we hadn’t established anything more with one another and hadn’t met in person for several months. I told him periodically that I was still looking on the dating sites, but that I hadn’t found anyone, which was all truthful. We almost got together a few times, but either due to strange and mysterious timing or excuses, we didn’t end up ever seeing each other.

Since I wasn’t in a relationship at the time and had no one to use as my whipping post--metaphorically speaking only--I texted him back and said that I was really looking for more in a relationship than sex. The implied message was that I wasn’t sure if I was going to waste my time or not.

(Not that passionate sex is ever a waste of time; we had just had so many cancellations that I had begun to wonder whether or not we were just too busy.)

Again, the sexter wasn’t wrong to continue to sext me; the timing was wrong. It probably would have been the same if I was in a serious relationship with someone, too. When you’ve had a shitty day, the “hey baby” lines don’t always work so well.

But the whole bad sext timing incident did make me realize that I am looking for something more than a sext-only relationship. How about you? Have you ever been the recipient of a sext at an inappropriate time or place? Or, like me, did you ever get a sex from someone at a time when you needed a hug?